You’re three months away from your big day, the venue’s booked, dress altered, even the delicious wedding cake’s been ordered. All the details are coming together, yet something doesn’t feel right. It’s not until your weekly brunch with the girls are you able to decipher what’s really upsetting you. It’s not the constant phone calls your mother’s been making from across state. It’s not the extra “guy time” your fiance’s requested with his boys, it’s the insensitive, deliberate comments that keep falling out of your closest bridesmaid’s mouth every time she opens it.
It’s very easy to let your emotions get the best of you, especially during such a volatile time. But how do you handle a bridesmaid that’s less than supportive, mumbles hurtful things under her breath, or just seems unenthusiastic about playing a role in your wedding.
Initially my first response would be “get rid of her!” Who needs anyone bringing you down on your big day? However, seeing as though your wedding is one of the most important days in your life, my advice would be to approach the situation with as much grace and decorum possible.
In order to rectify the “bitter bridesmaid” situation you must first get to the root of her anger. Is she jealous because she’s been unfortunate in finding love? Is she fearful that she will be losing you as one of her closest friends? Does she feel like she’s not playing a large enough role in your special day? Or, is she just a hurtful human being that can’t relish in another person’s happiness?
Once the two of you have sat down and talked through your feelings you’ll have a better understanding of what’s behind her pessimistic behavior. And the truth is, although it may be an uncomfortable discussion to have, you must talk it through in order to eliminate any negative energy surrounding your big day.
If you rely on truth, honesty and open communication, there isn’t much you can’t resolve when it comes to true friends, especially those important enough to play a role leading up to your big day. Although, on the flip side, if you determine your bridesmaid is nothing more than a green-eyed monster, the sooner you remove her from any further planning, the better. This is your special day, you shouldn’t allow ANYONE, not even your closest friend ruin it!